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AN EXCLUSIVE GOD FOR WOMEN

December 23, 2010

The idea for this came from DG’s post

We all know that we have different Gods for different needs/occasions

We have Goddess Laxmi for wealth

We have Goddess Saraswati for education

We have Lord Shiva for marriage of girls

We have Ganpati as Vighanharta

We have Indra for rains

So on and so forth

Then we have some exclusive Gods and temples for Men – only men can worship them, or go to their temple or touch them like Shani dev, Hanumanji, or Sabrimala in South.

But to my knowledge we don’t have a God exclusively for women – a God to whom a woman in distress can turn to. A God ,who will cater only to women.

A God in whose temple men will be treated as trespassers and who will be prosecuted if try to enter the temple.

A god who will listen to the problems of women only ,without any prejudice.

A God ,who will come to the rescue of women who are either the victim of exploitation by men or women who are subjected to humiliation and insults by the members of their own sex—the MILS and SILS or the other women.

A God who will not get polluted or whose temple will not become dirty by the entry of women who are in their monthly cycle.

Talking of discrimination

Women are not allowed to touch some of the men Gods like Shanidev or Hanumanji or Manibhadraji or Kshetrapalji but there is no restriction on men to touch the She Gods

Rather all the Pujaris of all the temples be it of a He God or a She God are men.

These men Pujari do the Puja, change the clothes of the She Gods etc.

There is no restriction on them.

I wonder when it comes to matter of God why should there be any discrimination

It is the God who has made woman, it is he who is responsible for the monthly cycles of women ( without these cycles the survival of human race will not be possible) then how come women during this period are considered untouchables?

I think the women during this particular period should be treated with dignity, respect rather than some member of outcaste group. Talking of the monthly cycles in some communities the women during these 4 days are made to sleep on floor, not enter the kitchen, not touch any one.

The height of such humiliation was when the marriage of a girl was postponed just before her PHERAS , The BAARAT had come to her door, all relatives from both the sides were there. Suddenly the girl got her periods. And guess what—it was announced to the whole group present there that due to this reason the marriage will take place after 4 days as she had become impure and could not attend any religious function. So the girl’s side had to take care of the whole baarat for 4 days and the whole world came to know about the whole story. just imagine what humiliation that girl must have felt

Is suppose there was a separate God for Women the girl could have gone to her/his temple and got married there.

Mr GOD are you listening to me?

Please give some time to the mother of the human race and make special provision for her

(I hope all the other Gods who are only for men do not get angry with me . I apologize to all of them . This post is not written to annoy or criticize the ways of GOD but to request him to give some special consideration to women also.)

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26 Comments leave one →
  1. December 24, 2010 9:43 am

    A very interesting view point 🙂

  2. Makk permalink
    December 24, 2010 11:32 am

    Well, There are women only temples in India, where only women are allowed to enter and priest & god are also female.

    though its not completely satisfy your criteria but still some thing better then nothing I guess:

    http://timesofindia.indiatimes.com/india/A-women-only-temple-in-Kerala/articleshow/1709146.cms

    • December 25, 2010 9:28 pm

      i have yet to see such a temple. pl do let me know the location of such temples

    • January 5, 2011 7:57 pm

      Makk, that is NOT woman only temple! Pls do read the article again. It speaks of a festival when feet of women devotees are washed by the MALE priests. As if that is some big concession to women or is even worship. (Beg your pardon believers! 😛 )

  3. December 25, 2010 10:45 am

    I don’t know about Sabarimala, but I didn’t know women are not allowed in Shani dev or Hanumanji temples. I have been in these temples. 🙂

    • December 25, 2010 9:27 pm

      women are not allowed to touch the idols,
      in Shani Singnapur near shirdi women are not allowed inside the main temple.
      women are not allowed to pour oil on shani dev in any temple any where.

    • January 5, 2011 7:51 pm

      Women can go to Shabarimala before they reach puberty and after menopause.

  4. Ashutosh Kumar Tewari permalink
    December 27, 2010 8:32 pm

    I am not a scholar and also I am not a person who have deep knowledge on women. I am a small child aged only 76 years. I am told Iam borne to a woman. Later a stage came when enetred into another woman called my wife. The two women are totally different from another.
    I AM SINCE BIRTH A LOVER OF FEMALE SEX. I DONT KNOW HOW IT HAPPENED. PUNDITS SAY MY 11 THE HOUSE HAS MOON AND SHUKRA THEREFORE SHUKRA AND MOON MAKES ME LOVER OF WOMEN. It is not to be taken ONLY on one auspect that is SEX.
    A woman never needs a GOD to help her. The woman who produces a fruit is a MEETHA or KADWA, emerges from the RAKH RAKHAW (Caring) by the woman. All males are fool. I too am. W=Every male wants to enjoy a female and simply because he is not to carry burden of the new born baby. After SEX if the man gets pregnant, no man will enter into rape or abuse of female.
    Male when left over resposibility, than a woman has to undertake twin, one to feed herself and to the new born. Unless new born is there there is no family. The animals too have the same instint. After Sex male go away and all females look after their produce upto the time they are grown up. This is nature.
    THE TOTAL RESPONSIBILITY LIES IN FEMALE. WHY WE CALL THE EARTH AS DHARTI MAA BECAUSE IT FEEDS US. THE SURVIVAL OF EVERY ONE, HUMAN BEING, THE BEASTS, THE PLANTS, ALL ARE DEPENDENT ON DHARTI MAA i.e. the MOTHER.
    THEREFORE THE NATURE MAY BE CRUEL TO FEMALE i.e.MAA, but a female is the biggest enemy of female. A wife has got to trim husband, One women can dance 100 or 1000 man at a time, without knowledge of the other, that is why spies are also trapped into women’s arms. A women makes heros and shining boy child and shining girls. These days women have out classed men with half naked or 99% naked body showing, therefore, an angry bull hurts.
    In my opinion, a GODDESS NEVER NEEDS A GOD. FOR YOUR INFORMATION, I AM A MAN, I LOVE MY WIFE UPTO THE FIRMAMMENT, I LOVED MY MOTHER TO ANY EXTENT. BOTH OF THEM TRIED TO HELP ME OUT IN MANY WAYS, STILL I RAN INTO HUNDREDS OF TROUBLES. I WENT TO SO MANY GODS TO SAVE ME FROM TROUBLE, OR AT LEAST GUIDE ME TO RIGHT DIRECTION, BUT NO GOD CAME TO MY RESQUE, AND I PASSED THROUGH WORST DAYS TO ENJOY THE BEST POSSIBLE LIFE, LIKE A.C.CURRENT. MY JUICE OF LIFE OF 76 YEARS IS, IT IS THE DESTINY THAT MAKES YOU HAPPY OR UNHAPPY, BUT A WOMAN DO’NT NEED ANY BODY’S HELP. IT IS SHE WHO HELPS OTHERS, IT IS FOR HER TO DECIDE. A WOMAN HAS GOT TO BE VERY VERY BOLD IN LIFE. SHE IS GODDESS. REGARDS, ANJU

    • December 28, 2010 5:53 pm

      Thanx uncle for this motivating and inspiring reply.
      coming from a man A GODDESS NEVER NEEDS A GOD
      there are very few men in this world who will compare women to a goddess
      and will respect her like that
      because although there are many males who worship goddess but treat the women in their life as door mat.

  5. December 28, 2010 9:53 am

    Sorry if that hurts you. Its better not to pray a god who discriminates on basis of gender or caste because if you think he has created this world then no matter you belong to any gender, any caste or you are not a human being you are just equal to any other living from on this earth. I was nearly 15-16 years old when I read “Shiv Maha Puran” and “Vishnu Puran” and there wasn’t a single thing that I felt can be true that day i stopped there believing there might be any existence of god. I started finding out from where these religious ethics may have come which differentiates me as lower caste and others as higher caste. In course i found most of our cultural ethics were just made by men just to show of their superiority over women and then anyhow fixed them with religion and god because women are more introverted towards religion. Believe it or not this is biggest fact why men will always remain dominant to women no matter time changes to level of infinity because once placed religion or god forward a women hardly bothers about knowing truth, for example just ask yourself have you ever tried to find out why fasting for wife’s life is not included in any religion, the answer is surely 100% no. I tell you why because fasting at regular intervals make you weaker as your generation moves ahead means fasting doesn’t really increase anyone’s life it just weakens women generation with time so that their power will always decrease with respect to men no matter how much she works with respect to men. Reality never changes even though no one believes it, awakening will always remain bluff just because women will never believe the real stuff, sorry its the truth and truth hurts.

  6. December 28, 2010 5:58 pm

    Thanx for your reflections
    i also believe in the same why pray to a God who discriminates between genders, or why go to a place where discrimination is there.
    my purpose of this mail was purely to highlight the plight of the women who are discriminated against in temples and abode of Gods.
    why so? it is God who created both men and women , I am sure for him both will be equally important ( like a mother for whom there is no difference between her children)
    they why have different set of rules for men and women

  7. Satwinder Singh permalink
    December 31, 2010 1:40 pm

    Very interesting post. I guess all this is the outcome of a male-dominated society in India.

  8. January 5, 2011 5:08 pm

    Brilliant post Anju. Shared it on Buzz. Please do add it to the Blogscars Nominations too.

    http://indianhomemaker.wordpress.com/the-blogscars/mythology-traditions-religion-and-how-they-interpret-women%E2%80%99s-place-in-society/

  9. January 5, 2011 5:42 pm

    I have never thought in this angle, Anjugandhi! Yes, women are never allowed to touch the idol and in South India, except the poojaris, no one else touches the idols inside the garbhagruha, thank god, even males!

    Shabharimala doesn’t allow women inside their premises itself, i.e. girls above 7 years and women below 50! Again, here, only the male poojaris touch the idols.

    But, here, in Melmaruvattur, Tamilnadu, near Chennai, women are allowed to touch the idol (devi) and do pooja even when they have periods, which I haven’t heard, is allowed anywhere else. Even the trustee, adorns women’s clothes with teeka etc. and enters the garbha gruha!

    Most women are treated like door mats, but ‘mother’ post is treated with some respect, I feel. Let us hope these things change slowly, since woman earns, educates her children, sometimes even single handedly, nowadays!

  10. January 5, 2011 10:07 pm

    lovely lovely post u know that there is a menstruating goddess in india

    check this out

    The Menstruating Goddess

    http://www.allvoices.com/contributed-news/6007018-a-temple-in-india-where-the-goddess-has-her-periods

  11. Kovs permalink
    March 12, 2011 11:24 am

    I just want to begin by saying this post is absolutly briliant and i love the way you bring out things that people generally wouldn’t notice. I visited India a while ago and I went to the Shani dev temple and of course I wasn’t allowed inside but had to watch the ceremonies from a distance, however i can’t help but think why aren’t women allowed in the temple? Is there a story behind it or is it another one those rules dominant men have made in order to supress women even more?

  12. September 28, 2011 10:14 pm

    ‘Ms God’. Or even a genderless god would do.

  13. April 5, 2012 2:59 pm

    what you have said is right…but one girl can touch any god during cycle. because god only gave all these things….god didnt tell not to touch them….so no problem even though if we touch them…it doesnt matters as devotion is related to heart not body…..

    radhika

  14. September 21, 2012 2:54 pm

    My MIL asked for my periods date for calculating ,marriage date…
    And what , I was so stress that my periods got delayed and moment I sat on the Mandap I got them… Ha ha ha.. I just carried on , kaun manta hai bakwaas..I told my Hubby to keep shut on this…as this was a love marriage and he too had believed in this , but I warned him that this way we cannot stay married with all the BS

  15. Sneha permalink
    November 21, 2014 10:29 pm

    in a temple called mannaarsala in kerala the poojaris are women……

  16. ajay permalink
    August 19, 2015 9:59 am

    Hi I read what you have writen and what your mind set is. 1st of all god has not discremenated between men &women. Because according to Hindu religion your body is not what you are it is the soul that is your identity. Every thing on this earth is god. Like we see sun rays coming from sun but sun rays are not actually sun they are part of sun. LLike wise we all are part of God aent to do what he wants. Now speaking of science &religion in olden days there were no pads (whisper,stayfree) so women used clothes to stop their bleeding. And in olden days there were no standing kitchens every one used to sit & pepar food so the blood used to shed on floor may be if she stood up the blood would drop in some food items so women were not allowed in kitchen. And for temples actually women themselves are goddess to whom only god has gifted with creation of world (pregnancy)so they don’t have their own goddess. And women are not allowed only in temples of God who are unmarried. But every thing has a negative side. So people later started to take it wrongly and started discreminating women. As science also has dark side of weapons crcreated to save humans become destructive to other people of other country. I hope you will study our ancient knowledge first then sing songs oof science.
    All science is evolved cause of Hindus.
    If you read bhagwat geeta you will find many scientific knowledge like word ball (cricket ball) earth rotates and sun is still, yogasan padmasan vajrasa etc. For which today’s so called science loving people pay lakhs of ruprupees to get treated ayurvedically.

  17. Dr. prabhakar permalink
    November 30, 2015 9:43 am

    You seem to be profoundly Ignorant about our customs and reasons for them being so.. You are looking at then in terms of western values…the reason woman are not allowed in temples of certain deities has rational reasons unless you refuse to entertain views alternate to yours… Woman are not allowed in shani temple to prevent them from the wrath of shani dev…it has nothing to with equality…woman not allowed to enter sanctum sanyorum of hanuman temple is because he s a bramacharya…he adopted that particular stage of life as his whole life…so out of respect to his ideologies woman themselves don’t enter….during menstrual cycles we don allow woman to because they not be strained and need not indulge themselves in matters of temples to give them adequate rest …and off course its the period where they have to be secluded …i even support the idea of menstrual leave for working woman…

    • Neha permalink
      January 27, 2016 1:14 am

      Why don’t you leave it to women to decide what they want to do, and not do? Why do men want to make the rules of temple worship?

  18. Abhinavkrish permalink
    January 15, 2016 7:27 pm

    During their monthly cycle, a woman is considered pure.. completely pure… therefore men are not allowed to touch her during this time…

    Since men are washing away their sins by holding fasts and self-controlling their desires, women are not allowed to come near them during that period.. this is the major reason why sabarimala does not allow women… THE BASIC IDEA BEHIND THIS RULE WAS TO SAFEGUARD THE PURITY OF WOMEN, NOT BECAUSE GOD FAVOURS MEN AND MEN ALONE… GET THE IDEA THAT WOMEN ARE PURE DURING THERE MONTHLY CYCLES… GOD NEVER FAVOURS ANY SEXIST, DO GET THAT IDEA BEFORE STATING ANY NON-SENSE… WHY SUCH TRADITIONS WERE DEVELOPED, IF YOU ASK? PLEASE READ THE VEDAS AND FIND YOUR ANSWERS… I am a Hindu and I have been exposed to vedic-scholars for a long time, and what they say is the same thing…

    • Neha permalink
      January 27, 2016 1:27 am

      Well, if I decide to observe celibacy, no man, no matter how attractive, will weaken my resolve.
      If I, as an ordinary woman, can have such self-control, why can’t male gods, who are umm, gods, exercise that kind of control?
      The person who is really determined to abstain from sexual thoughts and deeds will do it even if surrounded by nudity.

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