MAA KA LAADLA / JORU KA GULAM –who is he actually?
Few days back visited a patient and I was amused at the way the patient was being pampered alternatively by the wife and the mother.
It was like who will take more care of the man.
The mother wanted to be with the son, give him medicines or juice the way she used to do before marriage, supervise his food. After all she was the mother, she had the first right over her son, she knew more about her son’s needs and his habits.
But the wife also wanted to claim her right over her husband; after all she was the wife, the better half, now the new women in his life.
Sitting there I was wondering who is right, the wife or the mother.
We cannot deny that it is the mother who took care of her son for more than 25 years, the son had a very close relation with her, and they used to share everything with each other more like friends
But then how can one ignore the new entrant in the son’s life, who has come into the new family holding her husband’ hand and with the faith and trust that he will be there for her.
So the big question is who has more proprietorship rights over the hero of this post.
When I put myself in the mothers shoes then I feel she is right ( won’t I do the same with my son?)
But when I switch the shoe and wear the wives’ shoe then I am all for the wife and her rights. (Don’t I want to do everything for my husband? Don’t I want to be an integral part in his life?)
But today I am not thinking or writing about the war between the opposite parties but today I am trying to be in the shoes of the son/husband.
And trying to feel what he must be feeling when he becomes the rope in the tug of war and when he gets pulled on both the directions.
Most of the time we get to hear and read about the poor victimized bahu , sometime the helpless mother in law( Saas) but very rarely about the link between the two warring tycoons The husband or the son—The victim of war between two opponents.
Poor man is the sufferer of the proprietorship battle between two giants
If he takes the side of mother he is termed as MAA KA LAADLA
And if he shows some inclination towards the wife he is the JORU KA GULAM
No one ever thinks about him what he wants. He becomes the cock which keeps shuttling between the wife and the mother. He is really caught in the catch 22 situation.
I really sympathize with him. How hard it must be for him to keep both the mother and the wife happy by striking a balance between both of them, how tiresome it must be for him to pamper both the egos, to make both of them feel important and let both feel that he cannot do without either of them.
Frankly I would never like to trade my place with him .
Hats off to such Shravan kumar’s and such loving husbands who devote their days and nights to maintain peace in the family , who listens to the complaints of both the parties patiently, who doesn’t have the right or get the chance to pass his judgment or his opinion on the behaviour of either of them.
they are the real sufferers.