Where should the strong one go to cry?
While talking to a group of ladies I realized that in most of the couples only one partner is emotionally strong than the other.
I have yet to come across a couple where both the partners are equally strong both emotionally and psychologically.
Very rarely there will be cases where the partners in a relation will be mutually supportive of each other, or will stand like a wall to other one or face any crisis together without blaming the other partner.
Do such couples who will hold each other’s hand and together fight the certain traumatic incidences in their life only exist in books or dreams? I have yet to come across such an ideal couple in real life.
Otherwise it is generally only one partner be it the husband or wife who will bear the brunt of other partners’ emotional dramas, his fears, apprehensions, his failure to take the responsibility, his emotional let outs.
And a weak person gets the attention of everyone around – relatives, friends or acquaintances. Because of his being emotionally weak he gets everyone’s sympathies and support.
Whereas, the other partner is twice as much stressed as the other one because the strong one is not only facing the crisis but also being blamed for the adverse situation and also getting neglected and sidetracked because of the extra attention being paid to the other one.
Does anyone think about the supposedly strong one or does the weak partner ever think about what the other one must be going through.
The weak partner will go running to the strong one whenever there is any deviation from normal but where should the strong one go?
Doesn’t he feel the need to cry, to share his fears, problems; doesn’t he need some shoulder to lean on?
This reminds me of an old time movie KHAMOSHI ( Rajesh Khanna, Waheeda Rehman a very nicely made movie on similar topic).
Someone told just now that “in a relation both partners have to take turns to be strong and weak. One person cannot keep pulling the cart alone”.
The weak person should realize and understand the needs of the other partner too if the stability of their relation is to be maintained.
or a day may come when the strong one succumbs to the pressure.