Marriage – realisation of so many dreams!!!!!!!
Just came back after attending a marriage.
Although it was not as lavish as the earlier one I had written few months back
But yes, what is a marriage function without the traditional ceremonies, attires, lovely ladies in heavy saris and huge jewellery, people dancing to all the peppy numbers, the baarat, the big crowd of guests assembling from all parts , meeting old relatives, lots of yummy dishes, the full family involved in taking care of the guests and providing all possible comforts.
The traditional ceremonies make one feel proud of one’s heritage and rich culture and thanks to the Hindi movies and serials the age old rituals have come back in fashion
These days girls and boys want all the rituals (slightly modified as per the latest times). The feeling of doing just for the sake of doing or to do to make elders happy is not there but they perform all these with real sincerity and a feeling of pride
Doesn’t it sound like so much fun and something to look forward to?
How much planning goes in the one marriage is just unbelievable.
Of course in our culture as soon as the child is born the parents start dreaming about the child’s marriage.
Once the engagement is fixed then starts the real exercise, shopping for the best of the things, best venues, mouth watering dishes, decorations, gifts etc
And this is not a trend only in India but even in other countries the parents go to any length to give a life time remembrance to their children at the time of their marriage. Parents spare no limits to make this an occasion worth remembering for their children.
Even the couple enters the matrimonial life with such dreams and expectations
During this marriage I was silently observing the pride on the faces of the parents and the close relatives who were busy taking care of everything without even a trace of fatigue or irritation on their faces. The couple and the parents were unable to hide their happiness.
It was such a festive occasion which made every parent with children of marriageable age dream about their own children’s marriage.
I could hear parents planning about the marriage of their children sitting there and going into a dream world of wishful thinking of outdoing the arrangements made by the present one.
Just one thought suddenly crossed my mind that how those parents and couples must be feeling if anything goes wrong in any marriage after the realization of the dreams of parents and the young couple. How devastating it must be for all of them?
Parents spend their life savings, their time in giving the best of everything to their children. They plan the whole marriage with such dreams of happiness for the children in their eyes but suppose the couple is not able to adjust to each other? Suppose the couple separates because of non compatibility or some other issues? Suppose the marriage breaks after some time?
Similarly the girl enters the new life with so much expectation, the mother in law performs the marriage of her son with so much pride but then what goes wrong in their relations after a short time only? Their personal false egos take precedence and shatter their dreams.
Do the childless couples feel jealous and feel envious of the happy parents?
But one thing is sure that marriages are occasions to look forward to, enjoy, reviving old relations, relishing our culture and above all to dream about happy days, to dream about children’s marriage, to dream about a new life and of course dream about grand children( the ultimate result of a marriage – LOL)