To watch or not to watch?
Overheard two college girls talking
A – Wow you got engaged!!!!!!!! How lucky!!!
B Yeah, I am very happy.
A How are your inlaws? Traditional or Modern?
B I have no idea but I know I am going to cover my head after marriage the way they do in the serials. It is such a sexy look.
A Even I feel the same. The whole idea is so exciting- heavy saris, jewellery, head covered, all those customs and ceremonies.
B I just can’t wait to get married. Even I will behave like the girls in the serials—Mummyji Chai lo, Mummyji kya khana banau etc . It would be such fun.
A Do you know cooking?
B Noooooooooo. And I won’t be cooking also. I hope they have a cook there.
A What if, your inlaws don’t allow you to wear Jeans and shorts?
B Why should they object? Whenever I will wear sari I will cover my head otherwise I will wear what I wear now. And why should it affect them what I wear? After all I will be part of that family. That will be my house too. I can to anything in my own house.
I am just amazed at the innocence of the young girls and was wondering over the influence of the TV serials on people.
But what surprised me was that the young girls were not thinking beyond heavy saris, jewellery and various customs and rituals. They had such a rosy picture of marriage. It seemed they had selective observation only. Enjoy the good part and forget the rest.
I did not feel like bringing them down from their dream world to the world of ego clashes, adjustment issues, responsibilities, and dynamics of relations and shatter their dreams so I left the place quietly.
But their conversation did make me think how the serials affect young minds.
On one side the all those family soaps have revived the old Indian culture and traditions. (Let us ignore the bitching, the extra marital affairs, the scheming characters in the serials).
The serials not only have made the new generation aware of our mythology, various Indian festivals, and various religious rituals but also have brought back in fashion the traditional Indian attire, the ethnic jewellery and also awareness of rituals of different regions, castes and communities.
And on the other side the serials go on and on glorifying the patience, the tolerance and the sacrificing nature of the women characters or the mean nature and characteristics of the negative characters. It infuriates me to watch educated girls meekly tolerating the cruelties of inlaws, husbands or the villain in the serials.
What are the serials trying to portray? That woman should bow down to inhuman treatment silently?
Why doesn’t any one from the public raise their voice against such humiliations?
Are we not showcasing the glorified wrong image of life?
Am I sounding like someone who is addicted to all those sobbing, scheming, unrealistic family melodramas?
I am not but when the TV is on the full day, one is bound to give sideways glance at the dramas being enacted on the idiot box and get the gist of the whole story.
The most hilarious part is when people start identifying with the characters and start taking their side and pass running commentary on the scenes being played on the screen and comment, “serves her right/poor girl how much she has to suffer/keede pade aisi saas/bahu pe etc. or when I am suddenly asked,” do you think —– will be thrown out of the house/poor—- she lost her baby. She must be feeling so bad”
Just imagine a day without TV? It is like the biggest punishment.
The serials have become an integral part of our life. It is like watching serial is a punishment but not watching it is the severe form of punishment.
And tell me who wants severe punishment? so to avoid it watch and then crib like I am doing.