Over pampered children make egoistic parents/partners????????
It’s neither a hypothesis for a research nor the conclusion of one but purely a result of my observations.
Most of the time we the parents, pamper our children beyond any limits, we go out of our way to do things for them, our heart literally bleeds if our child has to do some work. There are mothers who won’t allow their sons to even lfetch a glass of water.
A child who is pampered (read over) in his growing up days, whose all whims and fancies are catered to, who is used to having his own way, who is made to feel special by his parents may become an adult who is an egoistic, attentions seeking and difficult to adjust with situation types.
Such children becomes adults who are mostly stubborn ,attentions seekers and un coopeartive.
As he/she is used to doing things his way, he/she will find it difficult to compromise and deal with various ups and downs of life and deal with various issues of life rationally.
When such a child grows up into an adult and dons the role of a parent he surely is going to pamper his children the same way as he was done and he will do all those things which he had seen during his process of blossoming into adulthood.
But the real problem occurs when there is a conflict between him (a over pampered child of past) and his over pampered child as both of them wants to have their own way.
Same is the case when he has to deal with is life partner.
If both of them have been pampered and sheltered by their respective parents then both will try to mould the other as per his/her style which in turn will lead to misunderstandings, conflicts, arguments and finally breakups.
The adult who has always been made to feel important and extra special finds it extremely difficult to take a back seat or on the receiving end of criticism as most of the parents treat their children as if the sun rises and sets with the children only and the child has never encountered any criticism.
such children have not only face problems in their marital life, with their children but also in their other social as well as work relations
Moral of the story—- pamper your children but don’t go overboard. Teach them words like adjustments, compromise and giving in. teach them that they are not right always, there are others who could be better than them