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May 17, 2010 /ArticleImage.aspx?article=17_05_2010_542_002

( Hindustan Times, Mumbai edition, 17.5.10, page 12 of HT Café,   ,” )

In the above link the questions have been asked by young boys and girls still in their budding stage and they all have one thing in common—attraction between opposite sex.

These days it has become a status symbol for all newspapers or magazines have a column like “agony aunt, agni aunt, ask your friend, ask sexpert, —-‘s corner, you ask we answer” etc etc where anyone can post their problems and they are surely to get a solution to the problem. magnitude, type, no bar—there is a ready answer for every problem.

Some of the questions and problems posted are either funny or unrealistic.

I am surprised at the type of questions asked and more surprised at the impractical and insensitive answers provided.

Are these questions just fabrication of mind to increase the sale of the paper and attract viewership or to fill up the blank spaces or people really share their problems with the world and seek answers from unknown people?

Who are these aunts/uncles/ experts? Are they equipped to advice young people about the issues of life? Do they have the expertise to talk about human behavior or human psychology?

One of the dailies has as an expert an ex model, another one has a story writer and another one even invites public opinion and solutions to the problems. How much experience do they have in dealing with day to day life problems or the problems of growing up children? Does their celebrity status give them the authority and expertise to deal with problems of lay man?

Aren’t these people playing with the young impressionable minds? Or taking advantage of the vulnerability of the troubled people>

And the so called aunts or friends are actually advising the young ones to carry on with their infatuations and pursue their love relations with someone who is also equally immature.

Will they in reality advice their own 14-18 years old children/brothers- sisters/ cousins to carry on with their attractions for opposite sex? Will they ask their own relatives to

Should the so called advisors not be advising them to concentrate on their education, career rather than telling them to continue with the relation? in most of the papers the answers given are stereotyped.

Should the media not be guiding the young ones in the right direction At this young age attraction between opposite sex is inevitable (for that matter attraction between opposite sex at any age is possible but isn’t it the moral duty of the media to show the right path and guide the people and refrain from encouraging people to follow suit

10 Comments leave one →
  1. May 18, 2010 10:12 am

    Are these questions just fabrication of mind to increase the sale of the paper and attract viewership or to fill up the blank spaces …yes

    In many english popular magazines I have seen very ridiculous and home breaking answers, so many times people who are answering are neither specialist in that area, nor themselves succesful in that why are they chosen to do it. In that way i find Hindi magazine still sincere, as they answer sensibly.

  2. May 18, 2010 10:43 am

    Sometimes I feel even the questions are fabricated, someone in the newspaper’s office himself/herself makes the questions and answers. Whether its print or visual media-TRP/ sensationalism rules

  3. May 18, 2010 10:52 am

    even if the questions are fabricated but then how can they come up with such stupid questions.
    has any one read the sex questions asked in Mumabi Mirror? they are downright vulgar and nauseating. I don’t think any one will ask such questions that too openly in a news paper column

  4. May 18, 2010 11:01 am

    Will u believe it, ive even seen one where Rakhi Swant of all people was the agony aunt!!
    Now, gulp that!!

    • May 18, 2010 9:21 pm

      Thanx Maria, even i had read the column of Rakhi Sawant but i was not able to remember her name i just remembered that some celebrity was there/

  5. May 18, 2010 7:38 pm

    Really a very sad tale to tell…

  6. Neha permalink
    May 18, 2010 9:11 pm

    i think most of these questions are made up and make no sense at all
    i cannot imagine a person having the audacity to write such blatant questions…

    i used to read women’s era and those columns in there with my friends/cousins and laugh about them…

    but i agree even if some of them are genuine… i dont understand how can u trust some random person to advice you on matters so important
    its the responsibility of parents,elder siblings,teachers to make sure that their kids/students are aware of these things in life and check on them if they need counselling

    • May 18, 2010 9:27 pm

      you are right Neha.
      but i read somewhere that at times it helps to take the opinion from some unknown, unbiased person.
      sometimes it is easy to open with strangers. although i am contradicting my statement but in real life talking to stranger, unprejudiced person does help at times as they are not the involved party so they are able to advice rationally
      but seeking advice through short ambiguous mails is very impractical

  7. Ashish permalink
    May 18, 2010 9:42 pm

    I honestly think that whatever drives people to flock for their paper/magazine will sell these days. Truly, as pointed out by many others, that these people are neither the expert nor have personally experienced situations that people are asking for, to answer. Simply putting a thought out there does not qualifies you to be a noble laureate.

    Sex sells in any form and anywhere in the world. Period. This is a universal truth and there is historical evidence that people have used it and will continue to hone on to it for their own personal beneficial reasons.

    A smart thing to do is to read them, have fun while reading the answers and move on with it without brooding too much about it.

  8. May 19, 2010 7:51 pm

    One thing that comes free everywhere is “Advice’. Now adults might be presumed to judge good advice from bad advice (even they sometimes are bad at it), but obviously for youngsters, no tom, dick and harry should be allowed to impress their young minds. But then who all you will stop, today’s is the Net savvy generation and nobody can control Internet, right?

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