think before advice
( Hindustan Times, Mumbai edition, 17.5.10, page 12 of HT Café, ,” )
In the above link the questions have been asked by young boys and girls still in their budding stage and they all have one thing in common—attraction between opposite sex.
These days it has become a status symbol for all newspapers or magazines have a column like “agony aunt, agni aunt, ask your friend, ask sexpert, —-‘s corner, you ask we answer” etc etc where anyone can post their problems and they are surely to get a solution to the problem. magnitude, type, no bar—there is a ready answer for every problem.
Some of the questions and problems posted are either funny or unrealistic.
I am surprised at the type of questions asked and more surprised at the impractical and insensitive answers provided.
Are these questions just fabrication of mind to increase the sale of the paper and attract viewership or to fill up the blank spaces or people really share their problems with the world and seek answers from unknown people?
Who are these aunts/uncles/ experts? Are they equipped to advice young people about the issues of life? Do they have the expertise to talk about human behavior or human psychology?
One of the dailies has as an expert an ex model, another one has a story writer and another one even invites public opinion and solutions to the problems. How much experience do they have in dealing with day to day life problems or the problems of growing up children? Does their celebrity status give them the authority and expertise to deal with problems of lay man?
Aren’t these people playing with the young impressionable minds? Or taking advantage of the vulnerability of the troubled people>
And the so called aunts or friends are actually advising the young ones to carry on with their infatuations and pursue their love relations with someone who is also equally immature.
Will they in reality advice their own 14-18 years old children/brothers- sisters/ cousins to carry on with their attractions for opposite sex? Will they ask their own relatives to
Should the so called advisors not be advising them to concentrate on their education, career rather than telling them to continue with the relation? in most of the papers the answers given are stereotyped.
Should the media not be guiding the young ones in the right direction At this young age attraction between opposite sex is inevitable (for that matter attraction between opposite sex at any age is possible but isn’t it the moral duty of the media to show the right path and guide the people and refrain from encouraging people to follow suit