YES—- I AM A HYPOCRITE
I was called a hypocrite yesterday which hurt me tremendously.
But after wards when I went into introspection and analyzed my behavior, my attitude and my thinking and one particular incident which happened yesterday night, I realized that Yes I am indeed a hypocrite rather one of the biggest hypocrites.
I am a hypocrite because although I raise my voice against corruption, I comment on people who bribe the traffic police by paying Rs 100-200 but when I am faced in the same situation I also follow the same path of getting away from the scene by offering the same 100- 200 Rs .
I am a hypocrite because although I often say that one should do what one feels like, one should not get perturbed when people pass comments but then I being a member of the same society, I get tensed over the comments of the people; and I also worry about “what others will say”
I am a hypocrite because although I appreciate the discipline and patience shown by people in other countries but when it comes to a situation where I have to stand in a long queue then I look for ways to break the queue and enter it somewhere in the middle, or I look for some familiar face to join him in the queue.
I am a hypocrite because although I want others to stand up to exploitation, raise their voice against injustice, but I myself don’t have the courage and strength to fight against the same issues.
I am a hypocrite because although I advice others that they should not pressurize their children in the matters of career but I do the same when it comes to my children.
I am a hypocrite because although I often say that one should not bring back what has happened in the past. one should not fight over the issues which have become history. But I also do the same. suddenly when I am reminded of something that had happened in the past and which had hurt me I often make it a issue of present once again.
And I am the biggest hypocrite because although I talk, write and express my views about domestic violence, status of woman, issues concerning women, exploitation of women etc but am I brave enough to fight for someone who is the victim of such injustice?
Because if I had the guts I should have helped the highly educated, pampered and only daughter of well to do parents with a married life of only one year and who had brought sufficient dowry and who was being harassed by her mother in law and her husband.
Why I couldn’t do anything when she called me in the middle of night to complain about her husband who had tried to raise his hand on her, why did I ask her to calm down and go back to her house, why did I try to pacify her by passing her problems as teething problems of any marriage and difference in personalities?
But am I the only one?
with no offence meant and no fingers raised against any one in particular all those people who write about women issues, who talk about gender biased society, who are very passionate about the exploitation and injustice meted out the women will they actually come out and help someone who comes to their door for help.? What would they do if they are asked not to interfere in someone’s married and personal life?
We write blogs, we write articles; we have lengthy discussions but to what avail? The problems still persists. Except for giving lip service what support do we offer to such victims?
Are we all not hypocrites?