One child syndrome
Gone are the days when couples used to have 2, 3 children
These days couples want only one child because they want to give the best of the comforts to their only child. Parents dream of providing the best education, toys, luxuries etc.
With rising prices, ever increasing competition, education getting costlier day by day, new and new avenues open for entertainment etc it is becoming very difficult for the parents to raise up even a single child so question of having more children is just unthinkable.
But there is other side to the coin also. By having only one child—–
One child means end of relations like MAMA, CHACHA, MAASI OR BHUVA. These days children are not aware of these relations and one child means he doesn’t have any sibling so his children will not know the above said relations. So, all these relations are getting extinct from the book of relationships.
How much the parents try to be friends with their children, how much they try to be open with their children the fact remains that everyone needs someone of his/her own age to share certain secrets of growing up which they just cannot share with their parents. Concepts like generation gap do exist and it is always there. There are times when the child will not feel comfortable with his parents.
To share the fears, doubts, anxieties and apprehensions of growing up years one needs someone who is of the same level as he is.
I for one try to be very friendly with my son ( I even make extra efforts to talk to him about his girlfriends, or friends in general)but there are times when I feel he misses his sister ( who doesn’t stay with us). I have often noticed a subtle withdrawal on his part when it comes to dealing with his emotions. However hard I may try but the age difference and the reservations due to the relation (mother/father and son) is always there.
Having a brother/sister gives an additional emotional support to the other sibling. It gives him/her the assurance that he/she is not alone in this world. At the time of crisis he will have someone close to him to hold his/her hand.
Having a sibling teaches the child concepts like sharing, compromising and adjusting.
One study has shown that only child individuals are more self -centered, more egoistic, more demanding and more stubborn in their other relations because they have always been the recipient of the whole and sole attention, love of their parents.
Today I attended an elocution competition on the topic “The causes of suicides in young students”
Out of all the known and possible causes there were two reasons which made be sit with a bolt.
According to the discussion we had ,one of the reasons which facilitate the incidences of suicides in young students is BEING THE ONLY CHILD.
The only child doesn’t have any one to share his problems and his misgivings. Suppose he had some sibling he would have shared his fears with his brother/sister and they would have helped, supported, counseled and helped the weaker one restore his confidence in himself thus reducing the chances of other think in terms of finishing his life.
By having only one child aren’t the parents only thinking in terms providing only material comforts and materialistic life ( they want to give the best of the physical comforts and facilities to him) where as they are keeping their child away from the emotional and moral cushion which only a sibling can offer.