confusions of young minds
Overheard a conversation between two young girls in their early teens in a family gathering
Both of them saw HUM DIL CHUKE SANAM and LOVE AAJ KAL on TV.
This is how the conversation went but before that let me give a gist of the story line of both the movies.
In the first movie the heroine (Ash) is forced to get married to a boy of her parent’s choice. The heroine still in love with her boy friend(Salman) gets married to someone else but informs her husband (Ajay)about the affair and her desire to go back. The gentleman hero moves mountains to help her go back but in the end the wife realizes that she has fallen in love with the husband. A gradual initiation into love with husband!
In the later movie the couple after years of separation and leading separate independent lives with other girl/boy realizes that they love each other and come together. The girl realizes this on her first night after marriage with someone else and just runs off by saying “This is wrong”.
Now the conversation
A , “ I don’t understand why did Ash get married to Ajay Devgan, when she was already in love with Salman? Why didn’t she run away from her house?
B ,” how could she? She was forced by her parents and she must have thought about the honour and feelings of her parents. May be she did not want to hurt her parents, or maybe she did not have guts to do it”
A,” that means Deepika (in Love Aaj Kal) was not bothered about her parents. She ran away after her marriage. She did not think about her parents, her husband and her in laws”
A, “moreover why did Ash not go back to Salman when her husband was ready to send her back?”
B,” Arre, she had fallen in love with her husband gradually ( dheere dheere)
A, “You stupid, it was not love. But when she did not have the guts before marriage to run away with her boy friend, do you think she will run after marriage with her boy friend. Earlier she was thinking only of her parents but now she has to think about her in laws and her husband also?”
B, “but may be slowly she realized the good qualities of her husband, how understanding and caring he was and she genuinely fell in love with him”
A, “yeah! But imagine if Salman had refused her by saying that you are already married to another person, now I cannot take you back then? And Ajay Devgan had also told her I don’t want to stay married to a girl who is in love with another person?
B ,” I think the couple in Love AAj Kal were right in their approach. Deepika must have realized that she cannot get over her boy friend and she did not want to live a life of pretentions? I really admire the couple in this movie. Bold and ready to live life on their own terms”
A, “one thing I don’t understand is why do parents pressurize their children to get married to person of their choice? Do they think the children who are old enough to vote, select the leader for the country, who live in this era of competition, who hold responsible positions in the offices will not be able to take wise decision about their life partner?
B,” actually I don’t know whether to go for love marriage or arranged marriage. Remember that girl from the next block. She had a love marriage but she got divorced just in two years”
A.” And the other girl who had an arranged marriage, even she got divorced just after one year of marriage”
B, “What should we do? I am confused”
The two girls left their conversation half way as their respective mothers had come there.
But the conversation left so many questions unanswered. I was wondering over the effect of movies on the impressionable hearts and minds of young ones. I also realized that the young ones not only watch movies for time pass but they have the capability to discuss the realities of life in turn get more and more confused.