THE BLAME GAME that we often play
Ever heard of a game called BLAME GAME?
All of us are fond of playing this game
Pass on the blame on someone else and feel contented and relieved
Accuse someone else and pass on the onus of unhappiness to some person and feel happy
But does it solve the problem?
The husband has had a bad day in the office, the boss shouted at him, he could not finish his work so he comes home and blames the wife for every thing
The child flunks in the exams and the blame is put on the tv or games or computers or again the wife is held responsible for not taking care of the children properly.
A marriage fails and every one blames every one.
So on and so forth
It is so easy to pass the buck around
But does making others liable, making other feel guilty ever solve the problem? Will it change what has happened?
It may give momentary relief, it may help let go off the frustrations.
By taking out the anger on someone, by holding someone else responsible for ones misfortunes or mishappenings may relieve the person off some of his stress but it will not help in any way.
Why don’t people realize that what is done cannot be undone?
It is very common and it is human nature to hold others responsible for the twists and turns in one’s life but to go on stressing the same thing again and again day in and day out doesn’t provide a solution
It is necessary to find out the root cause of the problem, it is must to find out the reasons for what caused the issues to surface, it is equally important to find the culprit behind the mishappenings in life for the simple reason that same thing doesn’t happen again.
Punishing the guilty is also a must so as not to have a repeat performance of the same thing.
but after punishing once, after making the person guilty once we, the human beings have the tendency to go on punishing him again and again.
If a child has failed or has done something wrong, it is necessary for parents to shout at him, reprimand him.
If some mistake has been done by the wife or husband it is natural for them to fight, shout ,be angry with other person
BUT is it good for the other persons to chase the guilty person through out daily ?
The guilty person himself will be suffering from his own guilt, he himself will be under tremendous pressure because of his mistakes and to have his guilt being thrown on him daily is like sentencing him to slow death.
Many a times the crisis with one of the family members affects the whole family.
Anything wrong happening with one’s loved one upsets all his near and dear ones.
Why the persons admonishing others don’t think that others may also be concerned about him and worried about what is happening with him.
If instead of continuously blaming others time is spent in finding ways and means to get out of the problem, if alternatives are searched to solve the problem, life will become easier.
Instead of playing the blaming game if the parties involved sit together and discuss the whole issue and explore other options open it will bring more contentment
Instead of making other person guilty it would be better if the key to solve the problem is found.
The clock cannot be turned back, words spoken cannot be taken back, whatever has happened cannot be changed into original stage then why give so much importance to the past?
Why not think about present and the future?
Why can’t we have more and more people like this husband in our life?