suicides in students— who is responsible?
Since last 15 days, not even one day has gone when news of some young one ending his life has not make the headlines of all the newspapers and the news channels on TV
- Three more student suicides in Maharashtra, toll 9 now (Jan 8)
- Two more student suicides in Mumbai (Jan 14)
- Class 10 student commits suicide in Delhi (Jan 15)
- Five more student kill themselves in Maharashtra (Jan 11)
Not only that, I was shocked to know of cases where parents committed suicide because of their children not getting success in their careers.
In another case a father went into depression because his only child was not serious about his career.
All these blazing news stresses only one thing that the greed to excel is overshadowing the senses of not only the young generation but compelling the matured parents also to loose their senses.
The unending race to achieve more and more, constant desire to reach the top is taking its toll on healthy competition.
Due to the ever increasing competition Students are being pressurized to cross the limits of their capabilities. parents are burning the midnight oil along with their children .
Gone are the days when securing 60% in exams was a matter of pride.
These days a student with 80% marks is considered an average student
Lives and dreams of these over ambitious students and their parents is not only dependent on numbers on the left side of the result but even the numbers that come after the decimal place has become more important .
Students as well as parents these days go into depression just because they secured some .01% less than the topper.
Mostly the parents are blamed for pushing their children beyond their endurance, beyond their competency.
But what is wrong if parents dream high for their children?
Is it wrong for the parents to see their child as highly successful, well earning, and happily settled individuals?
Someone commented “parents have such a brutal honour system. Children would rather kill themselves than bring shame on the family”
Young students who are not serious about their career, who can’t foresee the difficulties of future have to be guided, forced to study. There is nothing wrong in parents exercising a little more discipline on such students.
There are cases where a slight push, a little guidance, a little more strictness on parent’s parts, a little nagging has helped the child excel in his life.
But then who will decide what is the limit of little nagging, how forceful the slight push should be, what should be the extent of discipline that should be exercised on the child?
Why blame the parents only?
Even the students have become highly achievable oriented, even they have dreams of possessing all the luxuries of life immediately after passing out of the college. Even they want to touch the sky with their efforts.
Both the parents and children are blindly running after their dreams ( at times unattainable because of the competency level of children)
And failure to reach their dream destination forces them to surrender and end their lives.
Of course the over nagging parents, the peer pressure, the desire to achieve more and more are some of the other precipitating factors that forces children to take the most cowardly step –commit suicide.
But up to an extent the media is also responsible for the ever increasing suicide rate. By publicizing such cases media is encouraging the young minds to take this easy (?) step out.
Like any other thing the publicity by media has its pros and cons too.
On one side it is feeding the gullible naive minds of young children with the ideas of seeking the easy way out of facing the life, running away from the hardships of life.
They are making these young ones who succumbed to the challenges of life and ended their life as their role models and are following their footsteps.
But on the other hand it is also forcing the Government to sit upright and think and change its policies (http://www.newkerala.com/news/fullnews-26324.html) (http://www.indiaedunews.net/Today/Students%27_suicides_cause_worry_to_government_10174/)
but what is the solution is the million dollar question?
An appeal to all the students, young people— don’t only think about yourself only but think about your parents, think of those who love you, who live to see the life in your eyes before running away from life.
An appeal to all the parents myself included—- realize the capabilities of your child; don’t expect your child to be the best in the world, don’t see the top most players, top most scientists, Doctors, businessmen etc in your child. Remember every one cannot reach the top. Guide your children; be there for them when they need you.
Don’t push your child so far in pursuit to realize your dreams.
Don’t let such a day arrive in your life that the one to realize your dreams leaves you leaving behind your unrealized dreams, your guilt and his memories.