WHO IS MORE LUCKY– PARENTS WITH ONE CHILD OR PARETNS WITH MORE THAN ONE???
Yeh To Sach Hai Ki Bhagwan Hai, Hai Magar Phir Bhi Anjaan Hai,
Dharti Pe Roop Maa Baap Ka,Us Vidhaata Ki Pehchaan Hai…
If, the lyrics of above song are correct then how come the parents (once they have become old) are treated as liability by the same children?
Remember Bagban movie —–a true depiction of real life and how the old parents are treated by many children who are well settled in life. I am not talking about all the children , exceptions are always there but in majority of cases retired parents or the left out parent ( after the death of other one) are at the mercy of their sons and their family and many a times daughters and their families.
In our Hindu culture parents and relatives rejoice over the birth of son and more the merrier. An individual with more than one son is considered lucky
But is it so?
A common case of how lucky the parents are?
Imagine a family with many sons and either the situation of Bagban where the father is retired and not so financially sound ( that is a different story if all life savings have been spent on providing for the children and making their career) or one of the parents left alone after the demise of other partner.
Now the real story starts
The mother/father is shuttled between all the sons throughout the year. If, two sons then each has to take care of the parent for 6 months, if three sons then 4-4 months each and if 4 sons then 3-3 months each.
No scope of any dispute or partiality or unreasonableness. Everything is planned with precise calculations and specifications. A simple, just and systematic solution to a shattering and happiness threatening situation. (afterall the responsibility of taking care , looking after, nursing and providing food to parents is no small deed. it does require courage, strength, patience)
After the end of the stipulated term the next in line comes and takes the parent to his house relieving the earlier one. So now it is the turn of next son and his family to suffer and tolerate the intrusion of the parent in his happy family life.
Each day on the calendar is marked; days are counted for the term to end. And then the cycle begins once again with the other son.
These days with the concept of equality and justice and no discrimination between siblings some bold brothers have even started commenting, “the sisters should also take the responsibility of taking care of the parents. After all they also get share in the parental property, so why should the brother be the only one to sacrifice their happiness. Even the daughters should contribute towards the caring of parents and they should also take the parent to their house, why should the brothers be the only one to endanger their married life in the name of parents.
In the case of one son syndrome === he is unlucky as he alone has to endure the presence of parent and bear the burden of looking after the parent for the whole life. For him the happiest persons in the world are the sons who have siblings. They are fortunate as they have to tolerate and suffer the presence of the parents only for a limited period of time. Rest of the time they are free to enjoy their life independently. But he being the only one has no where to look for help.He alone has to be the BALI KA BAKRA, although the parent/s are not thrown like a shuttle cock from one place to another at the end of their term but still they have to live with the e humiliation of being treated as some extra, useless unwanted baggage
if parents are the equivalent to GOD on earth then how can the children neglect the GOD, or consider him as encumbrance or nuisance, hindrance in their happiness
Aapke Khwab Hum, Aaj Hokar Jawaan, Us Param Shakti Se Karte Hain Prarthna, Unki Chhaya Rahe, Rehti Duniya Talak,
Ek Pal Reh Sake Hum Na Jinke Bina, Aap Dono Salaamat Rahe,
Sabke Dil Mein Yeh Armaan Hai, Dharti Pe Roop Maa Baap Ka,
Us Vidhaata Ki Pehchaan Hai,
mere words for time pass, but then who said that one has to believe in values, traditions and self less love. This is an era of thinking about self or at the most once immediate family. let the parent go to hell.
but children do not forget it is cycle of time. You will also be in the same shoes of your parents one day — then what? just think about it