A CONFLICTING SITUATION
I am thoroughly enjoying my stay at Boston
In good old days I used to pamper Neha like a china doll but now it is Neha who is pampering me at each and every step. I had come with big plans of showering all my stored up love of last 9 months on her, giving her rest from kitchen work, keeping the food ready for her when she comes from office and generally not letting her do any thing but the tables have turned . She is not letting me do any thing.
I am sure by the time I go back, people in India will not recognize me because of the excess baggage in terms of weight I would be carrying on me. 😉
It is such a satisfying ego trip to see your child leading an independent and responsible life. To see your child dealing with the hardships of life on their own, to see them fighting their battles without asking the parents to help them, to see them climb high and high on the success ladder, to see them making a place of their own in this huge jungle of civilization gives a high which nothing else in the world can give to the parents. I really feel on top of the world at the moment.
But parents are parents. Times may change but parents with their over indulgence, their protectiveness, their own set thoughts will always remain the same. They will never change. We try to advice our children, give our opinions and at times want them to follow our path only and I am sure if we had our way we would live their life for them. and I am no different
I am surprised at the addiction of every one around to branded stuff
In India I suppose most of us are not all that brand conscious but here, these people talk only in terms of brands.
I had started a discussion on this topic with Neha with the intention to change her views on buying expensive brands but instead she came up with strong arguments which left me confused and perplexed
I was advising her to save money and not to indulge in all her fancies and desires (the now famous episode of her desire to buy the Louis Vitton bag for which she sought public vote and sympathy through her blog and mine too and used Gandhigiri to make every one convince me to allow her to buy the bag). (We are still having a tug of war for that. Let’s see who emerges out as a winner)
My arguments were the same that if once we get used to the best then we can never compromise to any thing else. And she should make it a habit to save money for future.
It is all right for now as she doesn’t have any family responsibility so she can afford and can indulge in all her whims and fancies. But what about future? When she will have her family, her children to think about? Suppose at that time because of family obligations and responsibilities she is not able to bow down to her desires then won’t she be disappointed and frustrated?
But she was ready with her convincing arguments,” Mom, that is reason we all are enjoying our life to the fullest. At this stage we do not have any commitments, no family pressures, no obligations or responsibilities, no financial constraints that is why we sometimes succumb to our desires and full fill our dreams.”
“We are responsible adults who know our financial limitations and are aware that once we are settled then it may not be able to cater to all our fancies. Do you think we are wrong in cuddling and pampering all our dreams at this stage”.
“We are struggling here in this world far away from the safe cocoon of our parental love and our roots for a better standard of life, for money for more comforts. Then do you think it is a crime to savor the fruits of our hardships.”
In a way she is right. I have seen here that most of the people believe in living in today. They are not so much concerned about what the future holds for them. Unlike we people in India who are so much obsessed with saving for future that most of the time we tend to ignore the present.
But I still think that saving and thinking for future, putting a restraint on our ever flying desires, exercising a little self control will go a long way paving the way for a secured future.
I also think that the youth who have left the emotional cushion and security of their parents, their culture and their roots to settle in this alien land with strangers around them, to acquire maximum materialistic comforts, to earn money so that they can have better standard of life should justify the sacrifices they have made and not get lured by not succumbing to all that this land offers them and should always remember the basic values of budgeting, saving and securing a financially sound future.
There may be many who will not subscribe to my thoughts and who will support the young lot who think like Neha and her friends but I suppose I would also find many supporters for my thinking