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August 1, 2009

“Friends are like Crayons, I may not be your favourite colour, but hope that you will need me somewhere to complete your picture” or “Friends are of two types. One says, “If you need anything, I will be there and other says,” You will never need anything, as long as I am here.”
Hundreds of such messages are doing their rounds all over. And my cellphone is already full with similar forwards.
Not only that, all the gifts shops, road side stalls are decorated with friendship bands, caps, teddy bears, rings, neck pieces all shouting with the same slogan “WE ARE FRIENDS”
Since morning I have been seeing school and college students proudly flaunting their arms adorned with multicolored bands, their shirts, t-shirts, their faces with friendship messages.
All over it is a festive occasion. Yes it is FRIENDSHIP DAY tomorrow. But celebrations have already started and it will go on till Monday, the big day being a holiday.
Seeing all this I went into flashback .During my days ( how I hate using this word my days or my times, this makes me sound old, belonging to old generation ,being the culprit of causing generation gap rifts with my children ). But can’t help it, if I want to refer to my college days, it surely seems centuries away to present day youth.
Any ways I am drifting away from my basic thoughts. So in my college days we never had such days—- rose day, sari day, mix and match day, funky days, Chocolate days, friendship days etc etc. Does it mean I didn’t enjoy my college days or I didn’t have friends? Or my friends were not sure of my friendship or my feeling towards them?
I don’t think so. We had our own way of showing our feelings,. Taking care of the other person, sharing secrets, keeping their feelings and experiences with opposite sex to ourselves, being a part of their infatuations, their flings, their adventures and also hiding all of this from their other friends or family members and also being the best critic of the friend, all came as a package with being close a particular friend.
We never tied bands or had such celebrations but we did have lots of friends at that time and I am still in touch with some of them even after so many years.

For me a friend is not the one who meets you daily, talks to you for hours together but the one who even if not present physically with you still gives you the confidence that you can turn to him whenever the need arises. moreoever it is not necessary that you share same likes and dislikes , have same set of friends But what is important is that you have the assurance that you can pour your heart out to him without his passing any value judgement of your thoughts or acts and who can help you see the right path by guiding you on it.

I also think that age or sex is not a bar in considering someone as one’s friend. For me platonic relations do exist between opposite sex. rather friendhip between opposite sex devoid of any sexual feelings is most honest relation( The so called society may look down upon such friendship)

I have heard many people say my sibling is my best friend or my spouse is my best friend. I wonder does a wife tie a band on her husband’s wrist or vice versa( as many say that they want their spouse to be their best friend, although I have my own reservations and views on this topic)?

But seeing the excitement around I also wish that I also had similar trend during my college days. I just love the way the students are enjoying, endorsing their feelings of friendship with hugs, bands, gifts, tattoos, necklaces, rings, shirts, bags. The list is unending.

I may also go out and buy some bands and tie them on my whole lot of friends. but this is sure I am going to send tons of sms to all my friends ( not the forwarded ones but I will write something of my own) reminding them that I AM YOUR FRIEND. YOU CAN TURN TO ME WHEN EVER YOU WANT.

I so much want to tie this band on someone’s wrist who has always considered me to be her friend (and I also reciprocate the same feeling). If by tying this band I am able to convince her that I am still the same with the same feelings, emotions, and am very honoured that she also considers me to be her best friend and Because I consider myself to be her friend,I take the liberty to her be her critic as I want only the best for her.

But as I will not be able to have the formal tying ceremony so through this post I want to remind her that I am always there for you in your good times or bad times, I am a part of you in your happier moods or phases of depression and I don’t mind your fits of anger because I take it with a positive attitude that because you feel close to me that is why you let go yourself in front of me

All my blogging pals I do share a special bond of friendship with you all and I miss all those blogging friends and their reflections who by some or the other reason fail to comment on my posts
Hey friends just remember that your visit on my blog and leaving your footprints enriches my life


27 Comments leave one →
  1. Neha permalink
    August 1, 2009 5:50 am

    anjugandhi, very genuine post…you reminded me of my college days…few days back I was cleaning my cupboard at my mums place n there I found few friendship bands…it was so good to see them as it brought back so many memories…

    wish u too a very happy friendship's day

  2. Swatantra permalink
    August 1, 2009 7:10 am

    Happy friendship ..

  3. The Panorama permalink
    August 1, 2009 8:36 am

    What a nice post Anju and am the first to comment on a blog…finally!! I value true friendship next to my family.

    And through the blogsphere I have made friends too who mean a lot to me since we share thoughts and feelings that are sometimes quite our won and not shared easily by others. That is what makes blog friendships so specail. I have read about topics that I do not discuss with even my closest friends.

    Have a nice friendship day, Anju!

  4. Rane (The Orchid with All Shades Pink) permalink
    August 1, 2009 9:46 am

    that made a wonderful read.. my personal experience says that most of the ever-lasting friendships are the ones which grew slowly and steadily..

    Happy friendship day to you too. 🙂

    Best Wishes
    Kajal(the pink orchid)

  5. ramya permalink
    August 1, 2009 2:09 pm

    wonderful post.. friends indeed are precious…they give you some precious memories…

    Happy friendship day 🙂

  6. ARJUN MS permalink
    August 1, 2009 3:36 pm

    Awesome !!!!!!
    I enjoyed every bit of it.


  7. Mimi permalink
    August 1, 2009 4:58 pm

    I loved that post and yes friends come to us in every stage of our lives, some friends stay with us for a lifetime, some friends come in and go out and new ones replace those, but no matter what phase a friend is they are still a friend and fill a need in our lives in some way, like all my blogging friends, I think for me now, having several blogging friends to lift my spirits and encourage me daily is what I need in my life as this time, I have alot of friends, who are so busy that it is difficult at times just to get a phone call through to them let alone a lunch date, so this platform fills my heart with such joy and excitement everyday, knowing I can wake up drink my coffee and read or pretend I'm talking to you!!!!!
    You are my longest distance friend!!!!
    Hope you have a fun and enjoyable day!!!
    I enjoy reading your blog, and I'm sorry I have not commented in a while
    hugs my dear,

  8. Anonymous permalink
    August 1, 2009 5:17 pm

    hey nice one….happpy friendship day!!!….would love to see a post without any '?'.. 🙂

    and one more thing why dont you reply to comments??..for example you last post


  9. AnjuGandhi permalink
    August 1, 2009 5:53 pm

    @ annonymous thanx for ur comments. I generally reply via mail because I am not sure whether people revisit my blog or not and ur mail address is noreply @—– so cant reply.
    but now onwards will make it a point to reply
    actually I am looking for a template where i can post indivdual replies under each reply. do u know the link? if so, then pl help

  10. Apanatva permalink
    August 1, 2009 7:02 pm

    Hi Anju
    very nice post.our time was different but did we
    miss much ?

  11. Ms. Neha Gandhi permalink
    August 1, 2009 7:55 pm

    its such a lovely post…
    u rock…
    happy friendships days

  12. BK Chowla permalink
    August 2, 2009 12:41 am

    AnjuGandhi,Very impressive.I think most of us must have experienced a friend with us in time of need.I have gone through this and I know what it means when you really need someone.
    Happy friendship day.

  13. manju permalink
    August 2, 2009 5:53 am

    Hi! Lovely post!

    Happy Friendship Day!

  14. AnjuGandhi permalink
    August 2, 2009 9:58 am

    @ BK Chowla, thanx for your visit. friends give you that special warmth which is missing in relatives.
    i tried posting a comment on your blog but could not do so.

  15. Durga Nandan permalink
    August 2, 2009 4:02 pm

    Happy Fraaaandsheep Day! 🙂
    Loved this one. 🙂

  16. Queenmothermamaw permalink
    August 2, 2009 7:41 pm

    Hello Anju, I would never question your questions about your religion. Religion is nowhere written in our Christian texts, it was put together to make things run smoothly, mostly for men. I have a strong faith in my Christian God and do not feel one must physically travel to a specific spot to commune with your God.I believe in the feminine sacredness of my God. I have religious friends in Mumbai with the Sisters of Charity of Nazareth. Blessings

  17. BK Chowla permalink
    August 3, 2009 2:50 am

    AnjuGandhi,Thanks,tell me what was the problem while posting comment on my blog?If you tell me,I will try and sort it out.I am happy you visited my site.I have published one post yesterday..did you read that one?
    Look forward to your comments in future.

  18. Gayathri permalink
    August 3, 2009 7:01 am

    Happy friendship day :)..belated though 😀

  19. Silver permalink
    August 3, 2009 10:02 am

    Yay to bloggy friends, firstly because they are the ones who really keep us going in the daily.. know the "most" about us, not in a creepy way but in only as much as we are ready or willing to reveal;)


  20. Thousif Raza M.B permalink
    August 3, 2009 12:14 pm

    thx for visitng my blog and leaving a comment, much appreciated

    and god i loved some lines in your blog very much, this post gives perfect meaning of what a friend can be, the post was very very nice following your blog rgt away 🙂

    hope to see you more on my blog too

    a very very happy friendship day to you too 🙂

    take care and keep writing……..

  21. Nazish Rahman permalink
    August 3, 2009 9:02 pm

    Friendship is priceless…

  22. shilpa permalink
    August 4, 2009 12:00 am

    So beautifully narrated in simple words .Thanks for posting and happy frienship day

  23. Anonymous permalink
    August 4, 2009 3:01 am

    no idea abt the template….as I am at wordpress so cant help much…but u can reply in comment section as well as mail the person(if id is available )


  24. Ketan permalink
    August 4, 2009 3:00 pm

    Why ma'am, would you like to tie a friendships' band?

    Reading your post, I'm feeling even more older than you! I've not thought in ages of tying a friendships' band. Maybe, when I'd be your age, I might miss all this fun, and regret indulging in it, but even that actually seems unlikely. 🙂

    A belated happy friendships' day to you!


    PS: One of the messages on your newer post regarding how we shouldn't generalize all women to be always thinking of their family welfare was from me. Where I'd given example of wives making their husbands buy costly things to impress others. I'm not sure if I was logged in while posting that message–so it might show up a from 'anonymous'.

  25. Ketan permalink
    August 4, 2009 3:02 pm

    And ma'am, I'm subscribed to RSS comments feeds, so you could reply to me on your blog itself. 🙂 I'd be definitely reading them, and if asked by you, also replying to them. Just make sure that in your responses you address me as 'Ketan' so that I'd know that message was meant for me. TC.

  26. Roshmi Sinha permalink
    August 6, 2009 8:49 am

    A nice read!

    Happy Friendship Day… to you, too! 🙂

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    Wow very nice…blog..

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