MERRY CHRISTMAS

This is our Christmas tree. Standing tall in its full glory, only thing missing is ——–

Pl don’t miss out the Ganpati and OM behind the tree

Isn’t this  true cosmopolitism?

While I was buying the tree someone commented, “why are you buying a Christmas tree, we are Hindus/Jains, we don’t celebrate Christian festivals.

I just smiled at him and carried on with my shopping while thinking why do people have such rigid religious values? We are a democratic country with freedom to practice and follow whatever religion we want. Then why stop someone from doing which has been granted by our constitution.

Thank God in my family there are no religious restrictions.

Although we are Jains but Religious beliefs, faith and values know no bar in my family

My mother in law a strict Jain –No Onion, Potato, eat before sun set types. But we all visit Haji Ali ki Dargah, Gurudwara, Church or any other Hindu temple whenever the urge to say Hello to the All Mighty pops up.

We eat sewiyaan on ID, cakes on Christmas and of course tons of sweets on other festivals.

coming back to my Christmas tree

I had got the inspiration to decorate my tree at Neha’s place almost one month back ( she wanted to do it before I left Boston) When we were decorating the tree at Nehas place in Boston, at that time only I had decided why should be left behind.

So here I am all set with my illuminated, decorated tree. The only thing missing is the visit of Santa Clause with his bag full of gifts for me too.

My adult, rational mind knows that there is no such person as Santa Clause.

But the child in me who occasionally peeps out to confirm its existence is hoping that the elusive Santa clause may honour me with his visit just this time.

Because this is the first time I am praying and pleading him to drop the gifts which I am so eagerly waiting for.

We all have not seen the God but are confident of his existence. Similarly I know that may be no one has seen Santa Clause but he is there somewhere hiding from every one with his bag full of surprises and all set to bring happiness and smiles on the faces of the ones who are waiting for his carriage.

I hope he will not disappoint me and will definitely drop the much awaited gift near my tree.

If anyone reading this post has the email id, phone number, address of Mr. Santa clause please send it to me or request him on my behalf to either ring my door bell or just enter through the window.

I am waiting 

A tough choice

You have to choose between me or ——-?

A very common ultimatum given by the husband to the wife

1. I was watching the movie Avtaar ( Rajesh Khanna and Shabana Azmi) in one of the scenes Rajesh Khanna accuses his wife of betraying him by taking the son’s side.
2. In my all time favourite novel The Prodigal daughter, mothers of both the main characters are forbidden by their husbands to have any contact with their child.  “You will not see her/him, keep any contact/ he/she will not set foot in the house henceforth.  (Although both the mothers did remain in touch with them on a sly without the husband’s knowledge)
3. The child doesn’t obey the father or wants to get married to person of his/her choice .father is not ready, asks the grown up son/daughter to leave the house and issues the ultimatum to him/her — No more relation with us. And of course issues order to the wife forget your child otherwise leave my house or better still ,” MERA MARA HUA
   

Before issuing such an order do they ever think what would be the condition of the wife/mother?

It is like choosing between two eyes or two hands. This or that——-

Husband and children both are equally important to the woman.  How can she make a selection?

Worst scenario is when both the husband and children accuses the woman of taking sides.

Husband –, “you always ignore me, you don’t care for me. Your children are more important to you. Or you are taking their side to secure your future, your old age? But remember they will grow up, make their own life and will leave you. Then you will be left with nothing in hand.

Children—-, “obviously you will take father’s side. Are we not important to you? How can you, being our mother, ignore us? You don’t care for us. You are only thinking of your husband and your Pati dharma. You are so selfish. We have read that mother can lay her life for her child and you can’t even take our side—–“

What is the woman suppose to do in such cases?

it is like saying  ,” Idhar kuan udhar khai “

More often than not she chooses the husband and then tries to find means and ways to be in touch with her offspring.

Why don’t both the parties sort out their differences without using the wife/mother as a scapegoat?

The husband and children very often condemn the life of a wife/woman and pass it as a easy life.

I am yet to hear of any case where the woman has given such option to select between her and the children.

I wonder whom would he choose?

It would be learning lesson for all the men and the children ( sons and daughters) to put themselves in the shoes of the lady of house before making passing such reckless orders.

list of all the posts for the year 2009 till now

• MERRY CHRISTMAS
• A tough choice
• list of all the posts for the year 2009 till now
• I LUST AFTER————-
• GHAR JAWAI– A TAG TO BE ASHAMED OF??
• Tattoos– symbol of Power/ fashion ?
• MEN V/S WOMEN
• Security/medical checks at International Airport —– a farce
• Kurbaan—- anti Muslims?
• a perfect relation
• why marriage???
• Is it Love????????????
• WHAT IS LOVE?
• A CONFLICTING SITUATION
• my first post from Boston
• HAPPY DIWALI
• WHAT IS YOUR RAASHI??????/
• THE DICHOTOMY OF BEING A WOMAN
• change of address—– keep visiting
• NAME CALLING
• ALL THAT GLITTERS IS DEFINETLY NOT GOLD
• BLOOD IS THICKER THAN WATER
• History repeats itself
• Gurur brahmaa gurur vishnuh , gurur devo maheshvarah, gurur saakshaat parabrahma tasmai shree gurave namah.
• THE MOST DREADFUL DEMON
• Hello world!
• Beggars can’t be choosers
• Dilemmas of parents and children ????????????????
• DESTINY – – – YES OR NO ?????????
• I AM OK, YOU ARE OK BUT WE ARE NOT OK
• MOTHER CHILD AND GOD
• ARE WE AS PARENTS NOT RESPONSBILE?
• Thank God I was not born in Afghanistan
• USUAL V/S UNUSUAL
• Hypocrisy the other name of life.
• B +
• IS SHE GUILTY????
• HAPPY FRIENDSHIP DAY
• GOD!!!!!!!!! PLEASE CLEAR MY DOUBTS
• KANYADAAN—- DONATION OF YOUR DAUGHTER?????
• DOUBLE STANDARDS??????
• WHY ??????? some of my musings
• IS IT CALLED BEING EMPLOYED?
• JAI HO !!!!!!!! / JAI HO?
• STAND UP —-YOUNG GENERATION
• I AM TAGGED SO HERE I GO
• MY DREAM OF A SECURED HAVEN FOR ELDERS
• WOMAN THEN AND NOW
• ALL THE MEN GET PREPARED
• SORRY ALL THE MEN
• SIBLING RIVALRY OR SIBLING HARMONY
• TO BE A JUDGE OR NOT ?
• THANK YOU
• 24
• My First Blog Award !!!
• JUST THINK ABOUT IT
• Am I old fashioned?
• THE CHILD IN ME
• MOTHERHOOD MY OWN FEELINGS
• My three blogging resolutions
• what is there in a name?
• My passion —-reading
• The great Indian Circus
• JAI HO
• HUM SAATH SAATH HAI?
• Father dear father
• ऐसा क्यूँ होता है?
• yes I did it
• DAWN OR DUSK?
• TO VOTE OR NOT?
• This is politics for you
• IS IT NOT CHILD LABOUR

I LUST AFTER————-

Every time after making payment at my grocers shop if some change ( 1-2 Rs ) has to be given by him to me, he immediately asks me, “ Imli ki goli du ya katti mithi goli”

And with a sheepish smile I always come back relishing those small sugar coated imli balls  in my mouth and enjoying every single moment till the tastes lasts in my mouth of those mouth watering IMLI KI GOLI

Mind you these golis ( small rounds of imli—tamarind) cost only 50 paise per piece but boy!!!!!!!!!!! ,I will never trade them for all those expensive chocolates.

Hari imli, kamrak, and imli ki goli.

Mere mention of these is enough to make anyone’s mouth water, go back into flashback, and remember those school days and that khomche wala outside the school gate and those mouthwatering items which are available for just 1/2 rupees.

Just put them in your  mouth, , roll them , move your tongue, let the saliva cover it from all the sides , the sudden khatta taste of imli or kamrak will make you squeeze your eyes suddenly and an involuntarily sound of shshshhhhhhhh will give a heavenly feeling which is just beyond imagination and words.

Many a times I have been accused of being childish, regressing to childhood, going out of my mind, even called as being LS (low society) just because I can’t resist that small sweet and sour ball which just taste just luscious

I have to just see these enticing eatables on any shop or hawker and I just go weak in my knees. the temptation to just pop them up in  my mouth and savor them till the last morsel is strong enough to stop me from doing what ever I am doing and I don’t find peace till I have satisfied by yearning for the same.

I know I am sounding too juvenile for my age. But pray tell me what is age got to do with this fixation with the satiation of my palate.

Taste buds or sensory organ for taste has no age bar, it does not understand concepts like age, maturity,adulthood. . My palate knows only one thing and that is just to satisfy its desires, its penchant for delectable sweet and sour imli ki goli.

I know may readers will make fun of me after reading this but tell me ——

Why is it that the things which a child can enjoy cannot be enjoyed by adults?

Certain behaviors, Attitudes and action are expected of certain age group but sometimes adults like us should also be permitted to retreat to idiosyncrasies of bygone days.

People who have crossed their childhood days are often made fun off if they indulge to satiate their urge for food items which are characteristic of children.

We found a full box of orange sweets from the cupboard of my 90 year old grandmother. Her physical age did not deter her from pampering her taste buds with those small orange sweets.

Why do we feel ashamed to give in to the pleasure of our taste buds.

Why do we let the child in us die a slow death? Why not let the child which is hidden in our adult body make an appearance now and then.

( http://anjugandhi.wordpress.com/2009/05/31/the-child-in-me/ )

(http://anjugandhi.blogspot.com/2009/05/child-in-me.html)

Actually I don’t mind being called childish at times. I even enjoy playing those kiddish pranks on 1^st April.

I just cannot resist playing the most common juvenile prank on my husband by suddenly shouting, “There is a cockroach on your bed sheet or in the bathroom (if he is there) (he is very very sacred of this small insect). His cries for help and fear on his face are enough to send all the family members into fits of laughter.

I just want to appeal to any one reading this post to forget their age occasionally and give in to the delights of being small children and enjoy and derive joy out of those mundane things which may seem inconspicuous but are actually worth pursuing

So for once forget your age, forget about hygiene, forget about health, forget about being laughed at —- stop by at one of those hawkers who sell these tempting, mouthwatering delights and let your sensory organ of taste take precedence over your mind and just enjoy.

For I believe ,” Death is inevitable, even if take precaution and eat healthy food ,even then we will die then why deprive ourselves of these pleasures once in a while.

I DON’T EAT TO LIVE BUT I LIVE TO EAT

What about you?????

GHAR JAWAI– A TAG TO BE ASHAMED OF??

One of my neighbours had only one daughter, so for her marriage the parents had put up a condition that the prospective groom will have to stay with them in their house and manage their business and take care of them after marriage.

In other words become a GHAR JAWAI.

GHAR JAWAI is   a man who instead of staying at his parents place or staying alone with wife stays with girl’s parents in their house.

Every one around used to give him sympathetic looks when he was seen doing some household work like any other son of the family would do. I remember an incident when he was helping in the diwali cleaning by reaching out to remove things kept in the loft. And the people around actually did “tch-tch, poor fellow” and made fun of him.

Even his parents were forced to hear comments like,” their son has become a GHAR JAWAI. How shameful”?

I just can’t understand what’s wrong in being a GHAR JAWAI. Why the person holding this title is looked down upon with contempt? Why there is so much sarcasm attached to these two small words. Why there is a stigma attached to this word?

We talk of equality of gender. We very grandly say that bahu is like a daughter and Jawai (son in law) is like a son. So what is wrong if he also helps in the household work? Don’t we expect our sons to put in their little bit and help in doing small chores around? So when the son can do it then why not the SON IN LAW?

Moreover, if the girl is supposed to consider her matrimonial house as her own, help in the household then why shouldn’t the boy do the same?

I know all over the world, girl leaving her parent’s house and shifting to boy’s house is common (except for in matrilineal castes) but if circumstances demand they what is the harm if the boy shifts to his in-laws house?

Many a times the boy’s parents start feeling ashamed of their son and start shying away from relatives and public gatherings  iftheir son choose to shift his baggage to his inlaws house. it is like IZZAT MITTI MEIN MIL GAYI

I am not promoting the concept of Ghar jawai, lest my future son in law thinks that I would like him to become one. 

What I am trying to say that if the circumstances are such that instead of girl packing her things and shifting to her husband’s house, the boy has to do it then why raise such a hue and cry about it.

If the girl is expected to take care of her inlaws then what is wrong in the boy taking care of his in laws? There is nothing shameful about it.

I know this is because of the values embedded in our culture from ages that son in law is treated as someone superior, someone who should be respected (I know of cases where the father in law is about 65 years and son in law is only 25 years even then he is called with respect with ji suffix after his name or he is referred as AAP.

Is it because parents still think that the boy is doing an obligation on them by marrying their daughter?

I think I am drifting from my topic of GHAR JAWAI so coming back to it once again, why not treat the son in law as part of your own, like your son ? Treat him like one would treat one’s own child and encourage him to also treat the in-laws like his own parents.

At least with today’s generation these things should not matter and they should be open to change their thinking and outlook.

But unfortunately they do. GHAR JAWAI word is something which is still frowned upon. Boys feel it a blow to their ego if they are terms as GHAR JAWAI. But tell me if the girls can become GHAR BAHU then heavens will not fall if they become ———— 

Tattoos– symbol of Power/ fashion ?

Yesterday I met an old friend of mine and I was surprised to see an exquisite tattoo that ran down her thigh from under her skirt and traveled all the way down her leg and around her calf.

The color was incredible and she obviously wore her tattoo with much pride.

When asked why she got a permanent tattoo on her body and that too such a big one she replied

“I am a shameless exhibitionist and truly love having unique marks on my body. The symbols are important to me and of course it is the style statement of the day. I get the attention of so many people that is why I wear special cloths to show my uniqueness. You know what, I had to go hunting for some special clothes so that people can admire my tattoos (  I have one on my waist too )This is how I stand out amongst others.”

(SPECIAL DRESSES TO SHOW OFF THE TATTOOS)

In olden days Tattooing was restricted to illiterate population of villages. I remember in my childhood days I used to laugh at my maid servant who had her name written on her wrist, and two tiny dots on her chin. Tattoo was something which was synonym with the lower class of society or the tribals

And of course how can we forget the great affiliation which Bollywood has with tattoos. Tattoo on the body of some character and it is presumed that we are going to witness a lost and found story or

the very famous “ MERA BAAP CHOR HAI” inscription on the wrist of AB in Deewar. But these are all different stories.

But these days it has become a fashion to support a tattoo rather number of tattoos that too of varying sizes, shapes and colours.

The educated, so called modern generation has become addicted to this.

These days girls think it highly fashionable to move around with guys who sport trendy tattoos.

I read somewhere that tattoos have become symbol of machismo, rites of passage, marks of status and rank, symbols of religious and spiritual devotion, decorations for bravery, sexual lures and marks of fertility, pledges of love (remember the much publicized tattoo of Saif and kareena), punishment. Tattoos may show how a person feels about a relative (commonly mother/father or daughter/son) or about an unrelated person .

I was stunned when two years back Neha announced that she is going to get a tattoo on her. I was so scared that she, who runs miles away with injections, she who raises the whole house with her cries if she gets a small cut, how will she tolerate the pain of tattooing? And frankly I was not in favour of having a permanent marking on the body.

But she said, ” Mummy tattoos are something personal, it gives an attitude to the person .

But I was really surprised to see her proudly displaying her tattoo. Not only that during her next visit she again went out to get another one on her calf.

Thank God she didn’t go for those huge ones but tiny ones aesthetically done( according to her)

For some the “ art of tattooing one’s skin is a transformative declaration of power, an announcement to the world, I am in control of my own flesh. This intoxicating feeling of control derived from physical transformation has addicted millions to flesh altering practices”.

That proves that human beings craves mastery over what the all mighty has given him

I wonder why people go out of the way to mutilate their bodies with these markings. Aren’t they are the same ones who get panicky if a pimple appears on their face, or they get any scar of mosquito bite. If they cannot bear to have the pimple for a couple of days how can they go for something as permanent s as a tattoo?

I personally don’t see anything fascinating or attractive about Tattoos that too the huge ones. They are painful, they can do damage to body and they cannot be removed without a lot of aggravation. Why would one want to do this to one’s body. The body is already beautiful in it’s many forms.  Then why mar the beauty which the God has gifted us with with such ferocious looking images

Just tell me what is so attractive /stimulating/sensational/exciting about these?

but then each one to their likes and dislikes.

never know I may change my opinion some time in future and may decide to adorn my body with these marks of high fashion 

MEN V/S WOMEN

I got a sms yesterday which goes like this

“The word woman has Man in it. Mrs. has Mr. in it. Female has Male in it. She has He in it. Madam has Adam in it.

Ever noticed how all women’s problems start with MEN. MENtal illness, MENstrual cramps, Mental breakdown, MENopause, GUYnecologist, and HISterectomy

Send it to all women to make their day”

I just wondered whose brainchild is this?

To come up with comparisons like this one really needs innovative and creative mind.

Was the creator of this text someone who is anti Men, or who is a victim of exploitation by men, or someone who just wants to poison the minds of young women against men, or someone who really came up with this idea just to bring smiles on the members of my sex?

It did made me smile as I had never thought of it

But will forwarding such sms make men more vulnerable to the plight of women, or will it make the women raise their voice against the humiliations they are subjected to by the hands of men? Or will the woman able to do any thing to solve their all those problems which are caused by MEN

such messages do gives us a kick, it makes us smile, may be little satisfaction that men are the root cause of all women’s problem  BUT then what?

Does it help?

Same is the case regarding innumerable jokes/smses/quotations which show women in poor light. They portray woman as someone who is out to bankrupt her husband, or who will only cause unhappiness to the man in her life, who are brainless etc etc.

Rather I think it poisons the mind of young women/men against men/women and matrimonial life.

It is good to make others aware of the status of women in our society but I think such messages conditions the mind of young girls against men in general

We are feeding their budding minds with anti men manure. We are helping them presume beforehand only that men are bad. They are the root cause of all the sufferings of women.

So when the young ones enter into a relationship they go with preconceived notions about men or women in general.

Why have fun at the cost of the opposite sex? Why demean the other half of the society especially when both the sexes are important for the survival of human race?

http://anjugandhi.wordpress.com/2009/08/19/are-we-as-parents-not-responsbile/

Security/medical checks at International Airport —– a farce

So much is said and written about the super efficient custom department of all countries including India

In USA the custom department is so particular that they make the passengers take out their shoes, jackets and belt before the security checkup. I was even asked to remove my bangles and hair clip for security checking . No liquid, no water is allowed to be carried inside at the time of security clearance. I  was even asked to throw my empty water bottle.

Although Indian security at International Airport do claim that they are at par with other advanced countries but inspite of all their claims about being strict, Indian custom department are rather relaxed; there is no compulsion to take out shoes or remove other metallic objects on self. I was surprised to notice that some of the officials sitting on the computer screen were busy chatting with others while the baggage was on the checkup belt.

Tthis sort of carelessness is nothing new with our officials but I was not prepared for such negligence from the Officers of USA and Germany but I personally expereinced this carelessness in both the countries.

I was not aware that I had a bottle of mineral water along with my jacket and sweater  in the carry bag which was in my hand ( I realised it only after reaching back home).But surprisngly I was not stopped even once, neither at Boston, nor at Munich not even at Indian airport whereas at each port I was made to undergo security examination.

If everyone is so strict and thorough with their security measures (I was even asked to take out my nail polish ), then how could that bottle of water was ignored by them, how come it was not visible in their computer screens? How did it miss their scrutiny?

Then comes another incidence at Mumbai Airport (which is like icing on the cake)of the reckless way our so called diligent officers at the airport work.

After alighting from the flight we were made to stand in a long queue for more than an hour, reason being ‘SWINE FLU EXAMINATION’

Hoardings on bold letters were there all over requesting everyone to cooperate with the medical officers who will take the body temperature of every one coming from outside India. They even had a long list of countries that have been declared sensitive to swine flu cases.

Passengers from 4 flights (who had landed simultaneously) were made to sweat out for more than an hour for the medical examination. There was so much rush. People were standing neck to neck with close contact. I am sure even if someone didn’t have the symptoms of swine flu this continuous contact with so many people was a sure way to contract the symptoms of the dreaded disease.

I was so scared what if I test positive? Will I be asked to stay back and go into isolation in some Municipal hospital?I prayed and prayed that I should clear the medical tests

(it was just like waiting for the examination results when I used to pray to come out with flying colours)

Finally after a long wait I reached the end of the queue where some officers were sitting behind tables. There was no sign of any test going. Only thing they were busy doing was stamping the forms which each passenger had in their hands. I was just asked from where I was coming and then the officer with big insolence and pompousness stamped the form and asked me to go. I lady just ahead of me was coughing continously and she had a running nose. But even she was not asked for any medical examination. She was asked if she had any symptoms of the Swine Flu, and she refused ( what about the running nose , sneezing and coughing which were so very prominent) ANd the officers just stamped her form and let her go. 

I just stood dumbfounded with an open mouth. Where was the so called medical examination for which we all had waited for hours together, for which I had prayed?

I came out wondering how many actual cases of Swine flu must have crossed the fences without even a cursory test.

If there was no tests to be conducted then why were we made to undergo that torture of wait.

What impressions the foreigners coming from all over the world must be carrying about our security system?

Kurbaan—- anti Muslims?

Saw Karan Johar’s Kurban the other day.

I am neither a film critic nor I am trying to change my profession to journalism but feel compelled to write my views on just one aspect of  this so called super hit movie of the year.

These are purely my views. No offence meant to any person or religion

No comments on the film/story/acting/direction/music etc.

Its just that I feel that the movie has shown Muslims in a poor light.

After seeing this movie many people will become wary of having a Muslim as their neighbour or for that matter befriending a Muslim.

and every one will generalize from this and all Muslims will be seen with a look of suspicion.

None of the Muslim characters shown in the movie (except for Riyaaz played by Vivek Oberoi or Saif that too only when he comes to know that Kareena is carrying his child) has any positive aspect to their personality, no white or even lighter shade to their credit.

The only thing that the movie has highlighted is how some Muslims can play on people’s life and emotions to fulfill their ambitions and take their revenge.

We do have 26/11 of Mumbai, bomb blasts in various cities of Mumbai as live examples of what can terrorists (incidentally all of them are Muslims) do to harm the human lives. so I am not denying that almost all terrorist acts have been committed by them

but when it comes to showing it in a movie which is viewed by every one ( we had many foreigners watching this movie in the theater) I think some thing should be there in the movie which can leave a positive impact on people.

I wonder won’t people will think twice before renting out premises to them? Won’t they feel what if they plan terrorist activities in the premises ?

More so I saw this movie sitting in USA which is the basis of this movie.

Nothing in the movie generates sympathy for Islam ( Am I sounding like pro Muslim and pro Islam)

but its just that I feel bad for all those people are good at heart and have nothing to do with terrorism or with this particular section of society.

They may have to suffer for the deeds of some perverted and sadistic lot.

But I suppose this is another harsh reality of life. some one else pays for the deeds of others

a perfect relation

Few months back someone told me “Aunty I Gel so well with my husband, we have the same likes and dislikes, we have the same views about every thing in the life. We both love life, we believe in having the best of every thing and spending on luxuries”, “I just can’t imagine that how can two persons with different likes and dislikes spend their life together. Thank God we both have same attitude towards life”

(What about the physics lesson I learntin my high school—- opposites attract)?

Last week I came to know that they have separated

What went wrong? If every thing was to their liking, if they gelled so well then what was the precipitating factor for their ungelling (if I may use this word)

I know of so many cases where the couples have different take for same situations in the life, they have different set of norms, different attitudes and ofcourse extremely opposite likes and dislikes but they still are with each other for decades together.

And none of them have ever complained that they are not happy or are just continuing with each other for the sake of their children or family or society.

 I know different people will have different opinions about this. Some may say that two people with opposite look towards life cannot make a happy married life or they can not adjust to each other.

Some may say that such couples can not be happy but they must be adjusting to each other by compromising with situations.

But what is wrong in making adjustments. Isn’t marriage all about understanding and adjustments.

My husband and I are poles apart in our outlook

I am expressive whereas he doesn’t know how to express at all

I love reading books whereas the only thing he reads is his voluminous law books (although I did make him read a novel Rage of Angles — may be he read it because it had a legal background

Till now he has not read any one of my posts in my blog (actually I have also not asked him to read any)

I love watching off beat/arty/emotional/romantic movies. Whereas he is ever ready to watch thrillers/action packed/ crime based movies

For a vacation I would love to go to a new place where I can do lots of sight seeing whereas he would prefer a place where he can just relax, go for long walks.

I am the most carefree (read careless)/untidy/happy go lucky person whereas he is a perfectionist, prim and proper, disciplined and very methodical in his life. and most of our fights are because of this issue only ( because always I forget where I have kept things rather I am in the habit of misplacing things or safe keeping them in places which I often forget)

But then we have learnt to adjust to each other’s personality traits.

He never interferes with my reading passion or my continuous blogging although he does say that for me blogging has become more important than him ;-(

He manages to sit through all the movies which I drag him along to see (he can not complain as even I sacrifice my time to watch all those crime packed action movies)

He is the one who is always forcing me to find some purpose for my life, going for further studies ( not for the sake of degree but to gain knowledge)

It may sound as if I am singing praises about my husband (today being International Men’s day) but what I am trying to say is that two persons with different outlook, different personalities can also Gel together, it just requires a little adjustment, understanding, giving space to each other in life, allowing other person to grow as an individual and ofcourse lots of love and the desire to be with each other.

Perfectly gelled relations can also break if the I of each person don’t merge with each other to form a perfect WE..